I love the Trisha show – so much drama and so much to learn as well. I mostly watch in amazement and imagine the baggage people carry around – some, willfully and some, through no fault of theirs. Not too long ago, I watched an episode of the ‘Daddies in Denial’ series and there was this lady whose supposed father denied her after her mother’s demise. The supposed father claimed that his relationship with her mother was simply a casual fling and there was a huge possibility that she wasn’t his daughter because her mother was married at the time of affair. She could very well be her mother’s husband’s daughter.
Beyond that, one of the supposed father’s two daughters denied her as well. She resented her for trying to impose herself on them and for trying to get a share of their father’s affection. In her words (paraphrase), “He’s my father, I’m his baby, and I won’t allow anyone come between us.” She also said that even if the DNA test confirmed the lady’s claim, she would not accept the lady as her father’s daughter nor acknowledge her as sister.??
This attitude really got to me. The level of insensitivity she displayed amazed me. What if she were in the other lady’s shoes? Would she want to be treated that way? Wouldn’t she want to be shown some empathy? Why couldn’t she show a little compassion, some tenderness, even if she had her doubts or had a need to fiercely defend her turf? I secretly wished the DNA test would confirm what she was denying as truth so that she could ‘eat her words’ and it did. The young lady was her father’s daughter. Her reaction afterwards was cold as well. She insisted she was her father’s baby. She said she was angry with her father because he should have been more careful…bla bla. Well, that didn’t change a thing, the deed had been done and now, she had no choice in the matter because the father excitedly accepted his ‘new’ daughter while I grinned from ear to ear.??
Bringing it home, at some point or the other, we may have found ourselves displaying same attitude as this daughter. How often have we failed to be empathetic towards others? How often have we felt a sense of entitlement and treated others poorly because they are less favoured than us one way or another? How often do we put ourselves in other people’s shoes or identify with other people’s state/feelings/point of view before we pass comments or reach conclusions about them? How compassionate are we towards other people’s experiences that are far different from ours?
“For the whole Law can be summed up in this one command: “Love others as you love yourself.”” Galatians 5:14 (TLB)
“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.” Matthew 7:12 (NLT)
“Summing up: Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions.” 1Peter 3:8 (MSG)
“Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.” Ephesians 4:2 (TLB)
“The Lord is like a father to His children, tender and compassionate to those who fear Him. For He knows how weak we are; He remembers we are only dust.” Psalm 103:13-14 (NLT)
“For we do not have a High Priest who is unable to sympathize and understand our weaknesses and temptations, but One who has been tempted [knowing exactly how it feels to be human] in every respect as we are, yet without [committing any] sin. Therefore let us [with privilege] approach the throne of grace [that is, the throne of God’s gracious favor] with confidence and without fear, so that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find [His amazing] grace to help in time of need [an appropriate blessing, coming just at the right moment].” Hebrews 4:15-16 (MSG)
Think on these things…
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